We look forward to working with you! I'd kind of given up, but suddenly I've got a real sweet guy in my life. I feel like a virgin all over again—except I'm not turned on. Are they legit? Vocalizing concerns and goals out loud Receive an empathic, safe, and non-judgemental environment Explore yourself sexually and emotionally Learn about self Create long-lasting solutions to concerns at hand Improve mental and emotional state Address mental health concerns How You Will Benefit From Sex Therapy Adequate and comprehensive sex counseling can have a positive impact on an individual within a short period of time. Is this like not having the urge to eat when you're nervous? We already have enough constraints with differing schedules, kids, lack of privacy, periods. Finally, SCARED, the number of trained and qualified surrogate partners is relatively small—IPSA has just 70 members—so you might need to go where most of those trained and qualified surrogates partners are in order to work with one. Plus: Like a virgin—and not in a good way Sign up for our newsletters Subscribe click to enlarge "Sex can and does sometimes occur in the later stages of surrogate partner therapy, SCARED, but it doesn't always and it's not the goal—healing is. Below is a sneak peak of some common goals and strategies used in sex therapy. I'm attracted to this guy, but I can't get turned on. The problem is now I bleed whenever we have sex—just a tiny bit, but that's enough to kill it for him, and the sex is immediately over. A patient working with a surrogate partner is there to heal old injuries or break out of bad patterns so they can have a relationship in the future. I actually faked an emergency once and physically ran away because I knew sex was a possibility that night. If you are currently struggling with any of the concerns listed above and would like some guidance, it may be useful to connect with a therapist.