The number of sex-starved women in Australia is "grossly under-reported and under-discussed. Poor Communication about Needs If you feel embarrassed or simply don't know how to begin talking about sex , poor communication can compound the problem of having little or no sex. Plenty of books are available to learn about the subject. Give yourself permission to start slow and build up to feeling more comfortable being sexual again. The bond between them really dissipates, and it puts the marriage at risk for infidelity and divorce. Experts agree, though, that couples who have 10 or fewer sexual encounters per year tend to have more problems in their marriages. Low sex drive Many people simply have a low sex drive. Manly say the cause of a partner's lack of sex drive can vary, they both agree that there are some ways to deal with the situation to resolve or at least understand it better. You don't feel emotionally close to them, so you have sex less often. Even more commonly, a sudden, hectic schedule—ranging from end-of-year exams to a do-or-die work deadline—can leave your partner exhausted and uninterested in anything more than sleep or a night in front of the TV. So yeah, complicated. A good first port of call is a counsellor or sex therapist, who may also refer you on to a sexual health physician if the problem is physical. Sexless need not mean loveless, so look for other ways to connect physically, intimately and emotionally so that you have a foundation for sexual connection. If you are keeping track, chances are your partner is keeping track, too. You have to make an effort to renew your love and create that spark you initially had. Remember that having sex on a regular basis has many emotional and physical benefits! Hormone changes Changes in your hormone levels may alter your desire for sex.